When it comes to dating, we’re often focused on the red flags, what could potentially go wrong and whether the relationship will withstand the time and distance.
Sometimes we end up becoming confused on what to look for in potential partners, especially if we’ve not witnessed ‘not so healthy relationships’.
Trying to determine if someone is truly emotionally available can be quite tricky. Knowing what to look for can be helpful to ascertain if a potential partner will be a great fit later down the line.
So here are 9 green flags to look for when dating a potential partner. Remember that this is not an exhaustive list, but rather a guideline to help you.
They can communicate
Communication is a hot topic but it’s essential! Especially in the early days of dating. Being able to communicate your thoughts and feelings without being disrespectful shows maturity and patience.
They take an interest getting to know you
Beware of those who spend time talking about a past relationship that they appear not to be over or spend time only speaking about themselves. Spending time to ask about your likes and dislikes shows they are curious about you.
They can manage their emotions
Being able to regulate and process your emotions is a skill. Someone taking out their emotions on you or using you as their emotional punching bag is a red flag.
They respect your boundaries
Boundaries let people know what you will and won’t tolerate. It’s also important they respect your physical boundaries, no one should be pressured into doing physical activities that they do not want to do.
They have their own hobbies
It’s important that the potential partner has healthy hobbies that they can engage in. This shows they’re able to engage in activities on their own and not be clingy.
They are consistent
They are consistent with their words and actions. When someone is consistent with their words and actions, it brings about a level of security and calmness.
They compliment you and genuinely mean it
Your potential partner should be able to give compliments that make you feel uplifted and confident. If a potential partner starts to criticize you or makes snide remarks here or there, think about if this is a behaviour you’re willing to tolerate.
They are able to be vulnerable
Are they able to share their thoughts and emotions and tell you how they truly feel? The ability to be vulnerable and emotionally open enables both parties to become closer. Some who avoids sharing their feelings may be prone to blow ups in the future.
You can be yourself around them
Being able to be yourself around a potential partner is crucial if the relationship moves forward. Having to hide parts of yourself to please or impress a potential partner could spell disaster in the long run.